Time To Talk TFMR

TTC after TFMR

In today's episode we're talking about trying to conceive (TTC) after TFMR with Dr Erica Rozmid.
Erica is a clinical psychologist and uses cognitive behavioural and dialectical behavioural therapies (CBT & DBT) to help her clients with a range of mental health issues.
Erica lost her daughter, Shayla to TFMR a few months ago and so has begun to use the techniques she teaches others on herself to help her through her TTC journey.
This episode is full of laughing and a bit of swearing. Not because the subject is funny (it isn't, we know, we've been there too) - but we realised what crazy people we became when TTC after TFMR.
Hopefully you will find this episode a bit like taking a big deep, cleansing breath and realise you are not alone in the craziness. Erica has some great tips for helping you through the anxiety and uncertainty. You can also find her on Instagram @TFMRpsychologist
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TFMR Aftermath: Listener Questions

Hello! Thank you for joining us again.
Today's episode is all about the immediate aftermath of TFMR.
The emotional, physical and mental challenges.
We're joined by Jane Fisher from Antenatal Results and Choices (Instagram @arcantenatal) and our resident specialist midwife, Sally Kelly AND several listeners of the podcast to ask their questions to the experts.
Questions range from genetic testing to regrets surrounding surgical termination.
This is the first time we've done an episode with so many voices and we think it works really well. It's great to open this up to be able to hear from more of you.
Thank you to our listener guests:
Jeannine
Lucy Neal (Instagram @thegoldtoucan)
Melanie Zamenhof (Instagram @mzamenhof)
Cally Warren (Instagram @callywarren21)
Thank you also to all of you who sent in your questions.
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TFMR in a Multiples Pregnancy

Pregnancies with multiples are automatically classed as ‘high-risk’. It’s important to highlight the heartbreak that these parents go through. There can be problems found with one or more babies, or the mothers health is at risk and they may be told to 'reduce the pregnancy', which is a TFMR.
Priya joins us to talk about her and her husband, Ricky's, experience of finding out that they were expecting triplets - an exciting and joyous thing - to then finding out that the pregnancy was at risk and that they could lose all babies if they didn't make a decision to end the pregnancy for at least one of their babies.
Priya openly talks to us about all her babies, Adhira, Adhiya and Ariya and we're so grateful to her for speaking with us.
You can follow her on Instagram @our_one_of_three and read more about their story on her blog Our One of Three
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TFMR: Surgical Termination

In this special episode for Baby Loss Awareness Week, we're focussing once again on surgical termination.
We're speaking with Jane Fisher from Antenatal Results & Choices (ARC) and Dr Patricia Lohr, Medical Director for the British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS) 
Also joining us are Sabrina Fletcher @thetfmrdoula, Emma Belle from @tfmrmamas and Paige Wissam @paigewissam. All three women have experienced a surgical termination.
Jane and Patricia tell us about how BPAS took on the task of creating a TFMR pathway for those wanting/needing to access a ST and how there are more specialist hubs coming online within hospitals. These units will care for those women with medical conditions, meaning they can't be served by the independent sector. However, the hope/plan is that this will also serve those needing a TFMR as well. This means there will eventually be more doctors who can preform ST within the NHS, ensuring continuity of care for women and birthing people.
They also bust the myths surrounding the debates around which is better for psychological well-being: surgical or medical termination. We'll leave it to you to listen to what they had to say about this...all we'll say is, it got passionate!
As always, let us know your thoughts on what you hear.
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TFMR: Couples

Hello! We have another episode with a couple for our guests.
This time it's with Mark and Angela Deeks. You hear from both of them about how the loss of their daughter, Laurie, to a TFMR effected them individually and as a couple.
One of the things they speak so clearly about is how different their responses were to the news that Laurie was very poorly and that they would need to make a decision about whether or not to continue with the pregnancy. Angela seemed to accept, or understand better, the options available to them more easily than Mark. He struggled to understand what decisions they needed to make and why. This may speak to the fact that the care in these instances is heavily focused on mum and baby, rightly so, however, men, partners, can get lost in the maelstrom that unexpected and catastrophic news can bring. They may possibly be processing different emotions to those of their partners and need different types of information.
Mark really noticed the lack of male voices in baby loss in general, but especially in TFMR. He decided he needed to do something about this and has been doing his bit to speak openly about what they've been through and how it's effected their lives.
Follow them both on Instragram @markdeeksmusic and @angiemags
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TFMR: Mental Health

Lucy Livesey is joining us today to talk about Mindfulness meditation and well-being during and after loss. Lucy is a mental health nurse and well-being practitioner and set up Relax with Lucy & Co. in 2017 after experiencing the death of her daughter Ellie in a TFMR.
Just a little heads up, Hayley goes off on one and lets loose a couple of F-bombs - sorry about that! She was pretty pissed to hear how some people refuse to accept that ANYONE can be effected by baby loss (of any kind) and has a right to be well supported with compassionate care.
We talk about how meditation, and specifically how mindfulness meditation, can help us through our grieving process and look after our mental well-being by teaching us to befriend even those very difficult emotions like fear and anger.
Lucy tells us how her app, Ellie's Gift, helps to prepare expectant parents when they are facing the death of their baby to remain calm and relaxed through the birthing process.
You can follow Lucy on Instagram @mindfulness_relaxwithlucyandco and @elliesgiftproject
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TFMR: Post Traumatic Growth

Here it is, season 3 finale!
And it's a great episode. 
Dr Julie Bindeman joins us from Maryland, USA. She is the co-founder of Integrative Therapy of Greater Washington and she specialises in reproductive and maternal mental health. Julie has had two TFMRs herself and she is especially interested in the phenomenon of Post Traumatic Growth.
In order to talk about PTG, we had to talk about trauma and grief, and Julie gives us some really great insight into both of these human experiences and how they can play out in TFMR.
Whether you are new in your TFMR journey or several years down the road, we think this episode will be a source of useful information and hope.
You can find more about Julie's TFMR story here.
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TFMR: Couples

Welcome back! We're excited to announce that Antenatal Results & Choices is now a proud supporter of the Time To Talk TFMR podcast!
ARC is the only UK, nationwide charity, offering non-directive, individualised information and support to parents who are making decisions around antenatal screening and diagnostic testing.
They also provide specialized bereavement care for those who experience termination for medical reasons.
For more information or support, please call ARC on 020 7713 7486
In today's episode, we are speaking with Amy and Rachel. Rachel carried and birthed a healthy baby boy for the couple in 2018. In 2020, Amy suffered a miscarriage and then a TFMR in 2021.
They speak to us about how they have coped individually and as a couple through their TFMR process, what supported and helped them. Again, as with our other couples, they are very open and honest with us and we thank them for this - it's so useful to hear from both partners in TFMR, as it effects each person differently.
We discuss little about the IVF process for them and how they are planning to move forward in trying to build their family.
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