Hello and thank you for listening!

In today's episode we are joined by Dr Brenda Kelly. Brenda is a Consultant Obstetrician and Fetal Medicine specialist at Oxford University Hospitals Trust. She has over 20 years of experience of working with women and families.

Often, when a problem is detected on a scan or through blood tests, there isn't a clear answer about what is wrong with baby. In this episode Brenda explains how a medical team work together to complete the 'jigsaw puzzle' when either a genetic or structural problem is detected.

Catherine tells us more about her experience of having a diagnosis of Down's Syndrome for Bud and how the wider societal perception of life with DS intersects with the raft of unknowns that come with a 'non-fatal' diagnosis. Brenda explains how these types diagnosis's are difficult for parents, as there is no way of knowing which end of the spectrum babies will end up on. 

Brenda turns the interviewing tables, and asks Catherine and Hayley about their experience of pregnancy after TFMR. It was an unexpected twist, and we hear about both of their different experiences with this.

We hope you enjoy this episode. Let us know: you can follow us on Instagram & Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR and Twitter @talkTFMR and email us on talkTFMR@yahoo.com

 

Hayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Sara Vincini. Sara is Italian and lives in London with her husband and son. She has been through a late term TFMR, as well as miscarriage. To raise awareness, she regularly writes about baby loss, both on social media and on her blog: O Baby Where Art Thou.

We talk to Sara about the difficulty of being away from friends and family while grieving and how music helped her through. Sara struck up a friendship with Idles frontman Joe Talbot, who's daughter was stillborn. Her connection to their music helped her to fell less alone.

You can read Sara's blog post about her meeting Joe here: https://www.obabywhereartthou.com/post/catastrophically-strong-on-the-healing-power-of-music

Follow Sara on Instagram @tales_of_a_rainbow_mama

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Hayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Karen Burgess, the founder and director of counselling at Petals, The Baby Loss Counselling Charity. 

In this episode we talk about the complex grief that can follow a TFMR and how Petals helps parents to navigate their feelings around guilt and shame. 

Please contact Petals on their helpline 0300 688 0068 or email counselling@petalscharity.org. You can also find them on Instagram @petalscharity. Under the Additional Support support tab on their website, you can find links to various support groups and resources: www.petalscharity.org

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Hayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Steph Wild. Steph is a the founder of Beyond Bea Charity, a practising midwife and the mum the Bea , who she lost due to TFMR.

In this episode, Steph tells us how she began her training to be a midwife at 18 and undertook to support bereaved parents from the beginning. When she became pregnant in 2017, the unthinkable happened while at her 20wk anomaly scan. After a further MRI scan, she and her partner were told that their baby was missing parts of her brain. At 23 + 4 days Steph decided to have Bea's heart stopped. A decision which is harrowing in itself and one that she didn't want to have to make.

Steph talks about being cared for by her colleagues, about being 'on the other side' as a trained and practising midwife and how she continues to work with pregnant women. She also tells how she set up Beyond Bea Charity to fill the enormous gap in bereavement training for health professionals and what she has in store to support those who are going through/have gone through baby loss.

You can follow Beyond Bea Charity on Instagram @beyondbeacharity and you can visit their website: www.beyondbea.co.uk

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Hayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Sue Clachers, a bereavement support practitioner with the national charity Child Bereavement UK.

Today we are talking about parenting after loss. We discuss with Sue about navigating the tricky questions about death our children may ask – how do we achieve ‘age appropriate’ answers? We also explore explaining death to children and how to cope with our own grief while trying to be parents.

Whether you have living children or not, we are all still parenting after loss. How does this look for you? We discuss continuing bonds - how does your dead baby grow with you over time, milestone marking and incorporating them into our families.

Please follow Child Bereavement UK on Instagram & Facebook @childbereavementuk and Twitter @cbukhelp. Or head to their website: www.childbereavementuk.org to find resources to support you and your family.

For more immediate support, please call the Child Bereavement UK helpline: 0800 02 888 40

 

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Hayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Sabrina Fletcher, host of Our TFMR Stories on YouTube, a pregnancy loss doula and TFMR parent.

Hello again! Thank you for choosing to listen to us, we’re so glad you’re here. In this episode we cover quite a lot of ground! From TFMR experiences in Mexico & the USA, where women's reproductive rights and the abortion debate is so much more polarised, to healing grief rituals.

Today, we speak with Sabrina about her TFMR experience in Mexico (she is an American currently living there) and how many women in the USA and Mexico often don’t have the support they need when going through TFMR. We talk about the language of TFMR and how the medical terms often don't give justice to our lived experiences of birthing our loved babies and Sabrina talks about how after her TFMR she sought out the expertise of a doula to help her with her grieving process. This eventually led her to becoming a doula herself and she now supports others who have gone through a pregnancy loss. She uses rituals and creativity to help her with her own grief and explains how this can be used by others to heal. Follow her on Instagram @theTFMRdoula website: www.thetfmrdoula.com

You can follow us on Instagram @TimeToTalkTFMR and email us at talkTFMR@yahoo.com

We would love to hear from you.

January 4, 2021

TFMR and Creative Self-Care

Hayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Suzie Jay Goldsmith, a photographer, mentor and author of The Rallying Cry and two time TFMR parent.

Thank you for choosing this episode! It’s one full of inspiration and hope and we so enjoyed speaking with Suzie.

We talk about creative self-care after a TFMR. What does your creativity look like for you? Are you a journaler? A baker? A flower arranger? Do you even consider yourself a creative person? Suzie talks about her own experiences with TFMR and how creativity helped her rebuild herself and process her grief. She feels EVERYONE can be creative. She is a joy to listen to, full of warmth and wisdom. Follow her on Instagram @suziejaygoldsmith website: mylittlemuse.co.uk and you can find her book, The Rallying Cry on Amazon UK.

You can follow us on Instagram @TimeToTalkTFMR and email us at talkTFMR@yahoo.com

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Hayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Sally Kelly, a midwife, specialising in bereavement care, within the NHS.

Hello! And welcome, we are so glad you are joining us for this episode of Time To Talk TFMR, termination for medical reasons. 

In this episode we are speaking to Sally Kelly, an experienced midwife, specialising in bereavement care of women and families that suffer the loss of their babies. She is particularly passionate about women being given appropriate and compassionate care when it comes to TFMR. She’ll also tell us about the kind of care women can expect from having a bereavement midwife at their side, both pre and post a TFMR.

You can follow us on Instagram @TimeToTalkTFMR and email us at talkTFMR@yahoo.com

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Hayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Jane Fisher, Director of Antenatal Results and Choices.

We are so glad that you have found us, although this most probably means that you, or someone very close to you, has experienced a termination for medical reasons (TFMR). We hope that you will find comfort, support, information and hope by listening to what we have put together for you.

In our very first episode we introduce ourselves and each talk a little about our personal experiences with TFMR. We are then joined by Jane Fisher, the Director of the U.K. charity, Antenatal Results and Choices (ARC) https://www.arc-uk.org/.

ARC is the only U.K. charity supporting women and their families through the antenatal screening tests and their subsequent outcomes. They offer non-directive support when women and their families are facing a diagnosis of fetal abnormalities. Where a family chooses to continue with a pregnancy, ARC will signpost to the relevant organisations to best support these women and families. When a decision to terminate is taken, ARC offers ongoing care and support throughout.

You can follow us on Instagram @TimeToTalkTFMR and email us at talkTFMR@yahoo.com

We would love to hear from you!

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